My Personal Theory

My Personal Theory of Counseling Kristen Bellows Univer gety of Texas at San Antonio My Personal Theory of Counseling Perhaps nothing is as evidential to the success of the redress process and nothing represents the foundation of successful therapy to a greater extent than 1s personalized theory of hash come out. All idiosyncratics in totally aspects of life go aside from some belief system, berth, or model of how the world works, how things are, and how things interact. Developing a deep understanding of unrivaleds proclaim personal theory leads to better decision-making with measure to the therapeutic process, including healer progress and client interaction.Such an understanding to a fault promotes a greater mogul to intervene circulates effectively with clients whose value are in contrast to ones own. Being aware(p) of ones own personal theory of the world and, subsequently, ones debate of counseling, also helps the therapist identify individual strengths an d areas for improvement. The personal orientation of the therapist is a sum total of umpteen influences such as interests, self-awareness, experience, values, and compassion for others, among many other things. Such influences guide a direct impact on ones personal theory of counseling.For instance, my Christian upbringing, experiences, and beliefs have a significant impact on my personal view of the world and others and, therefore, also on my theory of counseling. My religious beliefs and values co-occur with some therapeutic approaches and not others. In this paper I debate into my recent introspective and reflective explorations as well as the experiences and lessons I have learned throughout my life which has led me to embrace and take over the p inventionicular theory ofcounseling I believe suits me the around at this term.Of all the theories I have learned for the duration of this class, none has resonated with me as much as Existentialism. While I have a marvellous re verence for psychoanalysis and its focus on examining the causal factors behind ones thoughts, skin sensess and behaviors i. e. ones past/childhood, the unconscious, as well as its contri just nowion of key concepts to counseling such as transference and countertransference, I am a bit unsettled by the deterministic and located view this approach takes of human nature.I connect much more deeply to the philosophies of empiric philosophy the emphasis it places on an authentic and genuine make for with clients, its recognition and respect for the clients inwrought world, assertion in the capacity of the client to make positive decisions and the concepts it foc theatrical roles on in counseling such as nitty-gritty, purpose, liberty, responsibility, filling, isolation, death concepts that relate to our mere existing in the world and the larger scheme of life.I tend to shy away from the theories such as cognitive-behavioral therapy, feminist therapy, and gestalt therapy, which a re very technique-oriented, exercise-driven, directive in approach, and simply require too much action on the therapists behalf. I feel these theories do not allow much of the clients pursuits and search for meaning in life to induce through or at least, it is not the major focus of therapy.I do recognize that for some clients these other therapies whitethorn be useful, which is why I do not discredit nor dislike them I uprighteous feel that they do not mesh with who I am in person and are not as inherent to my way ofbeing as much as the precepts of existentialism are. Personally, I hope to find out my purpose in life and contribute something meaningful to the world. Over the a couple of(prenominal) months of self-reflection, I realize that I simply get great rejoice through serving others and helping them in any way I can.I am more concerned with creating a meaningful identity element and relationships with others as I recognize the limits to my existence. I know that one day , I, as well as everyone else result die, and I therefore have a longing to make the most of my time on earth and the time spent with others filled with less conflict and more harmony and approve. To me, issue is the ultimate gift in this world, and I think it is one of the most powerful gifts that I possess and would like to share with everyone.I incessantly believe there is something good to love in everyone and dont believe in categorizing people as good or bad, levelheaded or unhealthy. I dont believe that ones existence is fixed or that people are tied to theirpast. I think we are al slipway re-creating ourselves and making nose out datum of each min of the life we live. Perhaps I relate so well to the concepts of existentialism also because it explores basic dimensions of the human condition, particularly death, which closely ties in with religion.Religion, namely that of the Baptist religion, has played a large role in my life. It has helped me make sense of life and been a moral compass in most regards. The line of latitude I see drawn between the Baptist religion and existentialism in terms of death occurs when I think about the Lenten while and something the priest says on Ash Wednesday Remember man that thou art dust and unto dust thou shalt return. This act reminds me of our mortality, similarly to how the existentialist perspective tries to allow us to grasp the inevitability of death.Death to me is not something I evidence to avoid thinking about. It is something that I am very aware of and has had a marked impact on my life. I am everlastingly seeking a life full of zest, meaning, and one that is filled with love and service to others. In this search, I have experienced the existential trouble that comes from some of the inevit competent conditions of simply being alive. That is, loneliness, finiteness and freedom of choice all bring up a certain amount of anxiety in me, yet I use this anxiety as occasion to make smorgasbords in my life.After I graduated with my degree in psychology in 2003, I worked for a while in a school setting. Working in the school especially caused a lot ofanxiety in me because I constantly felt that I was not living up to my potential. I just felt as though the job I was doing was a means to no end. My view on work is that it should not be just a job, but earlier a career, a lifestyle, something that you are proud to call your profession. It has helped me make sense of what I am called to do and given my life a purpose. I am happy with the path I am on right now.As an existentialist, therapy would also be structured around increasing a clients self-awareness. This is important because we need to be aware of our capacities in sound out to exercise freedom and live as fully as possible. I would try to especially help clients take responsibility fortheir lives sort of of passively letting circumstances and external forces direct their future. I would try to point out how it would be an inauthentic way of living if one subsumes the role of a victim instead of exercising the freedom that they possess.I strongly believe that we can create and shape our lives and rise to the challenges that it may present us with. In saying all this, I would not take a directive stance in expressing these opinions, as in doing so, I would be making decisions and choices for the client that they might not admit to accept. I would rather challenge them to explore how they have been living in the past that has prompted them to seek therapy today and help them discover new ways of living that will lead to a change in their situation.A large part of therapy as well would include helping clients trust in themselves to find the coiffes, rather than look to others to direct them. Ultimately, we are alone. As cynical as it may sound, we did come into the world alone and we will die alone. We of course account on ourhuman relationships with others and connecting with others is very impor tant, however, we mustiness be able to function as our own person first off and form our own identity in order to relate healthily to others. One cannot rely all the time on others for the answers and depend upon them for their happiness.In therapy, when clients try to do the same of me as a therapist, in order to break this pattern, I would explain to them that there is no easy answer and that they alone have the capability to find the right answer. In therapy, I would also try to provide the space for clients to find meaning in their life by asking questions that help them explore whether or not they are content with their current life, and who they are becoming, as well as helping them establish values that they will need to adopt in order to live a life that is meaningful to them. I would also be sure to talk frankly about the reality of death.Ignoring the egress of death makes its presence even stronger than if one were to confront it. In doing this, that is, addressing a fe ar that seems overwhelming to explore, a client is also opened up to experiencing life in a more authentic way. Along with the coatings of exploring anxiety, self-awareness, death, freedom and responsibility, and a meaningful life, the relationship between the client and me is of central prominence. Our therapeutic encounter will be the activator of positive change and it requires honesty and genuineness of me as well, in order to join the client in their subjective experience.I believe as a therapist, it will take a lot of courage, respect and faith in the clients ability to grow and reach greater heights and it is important that I am fully present to the client in ourencounters. Although right now I am solely focusing on the existential approach to therapy, I believe that later on as I see a variety of clients, I may need to adapt certain interventions ortechniques from other theories that might be suitable for a particular client.However, I believe my main assumptions and goals for clients will remain in line with that of existentialism. The existential theory of counseling appears to be an appropriate theoretical base to use in counseling because it fits my style of counseling. It is supportive of the client finding meaning in life, which resolves the existential anxiety many people are feeling today. In addition the existential philosophy supports clients spiritual growth but likewise can be used with a secular approach as well.In the same way I would evaluate a clients success on the basis of whether they have been able to find a purposeful existence through the discovery of theirstrengths, their own freedom of choice etc. , is how I would evaluate myself personally and as a counselor. Can I live authentically? Can I create a life of meaning? Can I sit with ambivalence and anxiety? Can I make my own choices without having to depend on others? Can I face my fears rather than live a restricted existence? I do not have all the answers to these questions t hus far, but they are important questions to me that I am of all time trying to answer.They are questions which I will probably always be asking myself as I re-evaluate and re-discover myself, but one thing I have realized thus far that is true for me, is that love is the highest goal to which I aspire. I wish to serve others and bring about change in others in counseling through this vessel. References Seligman, L. , & Reichenberg, L. W. (2010). Theories of Counseling and Psychotherapy Systems, Strategies, and Skills (3rd ed. ). recent Jersey Pearson Education Inc.